What is that builds up a relationship? What do you need to strengthen your relation? I think communication is the key for building of a strong bond in a relationship. The most important thing is to know each other and the flaws and the things which affect each other and the fact that you two understand each other. If there is communication, biggest of hurdles can be overcome no matter how big they are.
The root cause of challenges in majority of relationships is the lack of communication. The key foundation in any kind of a healthy relationship is communication. Lack of communication affects the physical health of a relationship. Deprival of communication in a relationship makes it ridiculous and doom. Lack of communication in a relationship makes the involved parties loss interest in the relationship.
A relationship has very rare chances of surviving its prime where there is lack of communication. “In a relationship, every partner should be prepared to pay no attention to distractions and actually focus his attention on the other partner.[1]”
The dialogue given here speaks of a similar thing. The girl, Mack insists on understanding each other better by talking more and asking each other questions. She tries to work on the communication in various ways. The couple has also been seeing a therapist regarding communication. She says “The article was talking about this study, and it said that love is not just something you fall into, it’s something that you can do. It’s an action. The act of knowing and respecting someone. That’s what makes a relationship. And there are three categories: passion, partnership, and friendship.” she tries explaining Bryce about the importance of friendship in a relation.
She also talks about a beautiful concept called Don’t speak. The concept is beautifully introduced in this dialogue. It is when we mentally and consciously stop ourselves from saying something to avoid conflicts. Mack and she introduces the concept think that hiding opinions from your partner is like cheating.
We all have filters when we talk to people, don’t we? We fear judgement, conflicts, arguments, negativities. But aren't we supposed to get rid of these fears while in a relationship?
Communicating fully and openly, without withholding, is a key to successful relationships. And yet, many people operate from a commitment to conceal that which they fear could reflect negatively on them. As a result, they tend to be discriminating about what they chose to share about themselves and what they chose to withhold, even with the people with whom they are closest. This practice of concealment can foster feelings of mistrust, inhibit spontaneity, and diminish feelings of intimacy. Couples with strong, vital relationships use candor characterized by forthrightness or frankness. Candor is truth-telling with tact and reserve. Such couples are generally more committed to revealing all aspects of themselves, including those that may not reflect favorably upon them. They are more committed to authentically sharing themselves than to protecting their image and manipulating another’s impressions. The commitment to reveal is really about authenticity. For people committed to being authentic, self-expression shows up in all relationships, not just those with their romantic partners.[2]
The article "7 Reasons Why Fighting Is Good For Your Relationship” points out that when you are able to fully express yourself, your partner will understand the depth of your feelings about the subject. If you say, in a quiet and unobtrusive manner, “I don’t like it when you do X,” if your partner hears you, they will think you are mildly irritated about some little thing. If you are able to put some volume and intensity in the communication, they will get that this is important to you.
Fighting tends to bring out our worst tendencies. But it can also bring out our best attributes once we work through the tough stuff. “In this process, we get to know the good, the bad and the ugly of ourselves and our partners, and still love them.[3]”
I think very important for two people in a relation to actually talk about things which affect them, which concerns them, which is only going to help them in a run of their relationship. The play beautifully explains that tio us with the concept of don’t speak.
What do you all believe in? How is the communication in your relationships?
[1] "Lack of Communication in A Relationship - Essay Example." http://www.coalitionforeducationalfreedom.org/lack-of-communication-in-a-relationship-essay-example/. Accessed 6 Jun. 2018.
[2] "Should You Really Tell Your Partner Everything? | Psychology Today." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201608/should-you-really-tell-your-partner-everything. Accessed 6 Jun. 2018.
[3] "7 Reasons Why Fighting Is Good For Your Relationship -." 27 Sep. 2014, https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/7-reasons-fighting-good-relationship-slake/. Accessed 6 Jun. 2018.